Good mornthing!
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blissmorganSo, remember that meeting I had yesterday morning, and to which I was definitely bringing coffee? Well, I drove the lad in and sent him off to TBL and then sat down in the Main Office to wait to have the meeting - and in the process of balancing coffee, coat, and purse whilst lowering m'self into the chair, totally fulmbled the coffee. And because it is a dollar store travel mug instead of a good one, of COURSE it came open and dumped All. The. Coffee. all over the office carpet.
Someone fetched paper towels, and a nearby student helped me mop it up. The school counselor spirited away my stupid travel mug and brought it back to me with coffee in. Mostly, it was just embarrassing.
The meeting went well, for what it was. We discussed the incident a little to make sure we were on the same page with the events. I caught them (the principal, VP, head of SpEd, and school psychologist) up with what the boy and I had discussed after I got him home the day before, and the expectations I'd laid out for him. We discussed options, which basically boiled down to either I take him back home with me yesterday for out of school suspension and then he spend today in TBL only, or that he stay in TBL where he already was working on processing and making restitution and spend today at home on suspension. I thought about it - and it was really nice that everyone waited patiently while I really considered both options - and went with Option B on the idea that if he was already involved in working through and making up for things, then it made more sense to let him carry on with that, and also to have him out of school on Halloween which is a very exciting but silly and disruptive day which might be difficult for him to handle when he was already somewhat disregulated.
I had a brief one-on-one with the VP, who made the connection during the meeting that I was Eldest's mom as well, because apparently a complaint of potential bullying had been lodged against him. We discussed the circumstances, and it turns out that it was probably a case of Eldest messing around with his friend in a way that he thought was funny and assumed his friend thought was funny when, in fact, he did not. This is the same friend that routinely tries to physically prevent my boy from getting on the bus. They're good boys, but both of them not necessarily top tier in terms of social propriety and interpretation, and their tendency to goofy physicality definitely has the potential to come off as bullying.
The VP walked me to the principal's office and said goodbye by telling me that I am an administrator's dream. I am torn between feeling awesome about that, and really wishing that there was no reason for the administrators to have any idea who I am.
Principal and I let Youngest know what the plan was for suspension, and then he kindly let the boy and I have a minute alone. It gave me a chance to give him a big hug, and also to offer to pick him up (since putting him on the bus at the end of a long day of processing didn't seem like the best idea). He jumped on the offer.
He is super not into the fact that part of his suspension punishment is no screens, but worked with it. I spend over two hours in his room with him helping get it cleaner and more organized, which opened up a ton of floor space for him to work on building some of the Tinker Crates that had come in the mail but he hadn't constructed yet.
It's not a vacation day, so I still woke him up at the time he normally would have gotten up to school. The lad got medicated, dressed, fed, and we settled in to go over all the schoolwork he had sent home. There's some writing, and some math. We figured out the big parts of each, and I broke it down into a little list for him: three assignments, three parts each. He can scratch them off as he proceeds. He's plugging away, and is on track to have them all done well before it is time for trick-or-treating this evening.
I'm a little tired; this was A Lot on top of other things I've had going on. He's doing well.
Hello, Blisstopia. <3
Someone fetched paper towels, and a nearby student helped me mop it up. The school counselor spirited away my stupid travel mug and brought it back to me with coffee in. Mostly, it was just embarrassing.
The meeting went well, for what it was. We discussed the incident a little to make sure we were on the same page with the events. I caught them (the principal, VP, head of SpEd, and school psychologist) up with what the boy and I had discussed after I got him home the day before, and the expectations I'd laid out for him. We discussed options, which basically boiled down to either I take him back home with me yesterday for out of school suspension and then he spend today in TBL only, or that he stay in TBL where he already was working on processing and making restitution and spend today at home on suspension. I thought about it - and it was really nice that everyone waited patiently while I really considered both options - and went with Option B on the idea that if he was already involved in working through and making up for things, then it made more sense to let him carry on with that, and also to have him out of school on Halloween which is a very exciting but silly and disruptive day which might be difficult for him to handle when he was already somewhat disregulated.
I had a brief one-on-one with the VP, who made the connection during the meeting that I was Eldest's mom as well, because apparently a complaint of potential bullying had been lodged against him. We discussed the circumstances, and it turns out that it was probably a case of Eldest messing around with his friend in a way that he thought was funny and assumed his friend thought was funny when, in fact, he did not. This is the same friend that routinely tries to physically prevent my boy from getting on the bus. They're good boys, but both of them not necessarily top tier in terms of social propriety and interpretation, and their tendency to goofy physicality definitely has the potential to come off as bullying.
The VP walked me to the principal's office and said goodbye by telling me that I am an administrator's dream. I am torn between feeling awesome about that, and really wishing that there was no reason for the administrators to have any idea who I am.
Principal and I let Youngest know what the plan was for suspension, and then he kindly let the boy and I have a minute alone. It gave me a chance to give him a big hug, and also to offer to pick him up (since putting him on the bus at the end of a long day of processing didn't seem like the best idea). He jumped on the offer.
He is super not into the fact that part of his suspension punishment is no screens, but worked with it. I spend over two hours in his room with him helping get it cleaner and more organized, which opened up a ton of floor space for him to work on building some of the Tinker Crates that had come in the mail but he hadn't constructed yet.
It's not a vacation day, so I still woke him up at the time he normally would have gotten up to school. The lad got medicated, dressed, fed, and we settled in to go over all the schoolwork he had sent home. There's some writing, and some math. We figured out the big parts of each, and I broke it down into a little list for him: three assignments, three parts each. He can scratch them off as he proceeds. He's plugging away, and is on track to have them all done well before it is time for trick-or-treating this evening.
I'm a little tired; this was A Lot on top of other things I've had going on. He's doing well.
Hello, Blisstopia. <3
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31/10/18 15:01 (UTC)I hope all tricks are treats today! 🎃🦇👻
Hiya
31/10/18 15:28 (UTC)I am off today, met a new dentist. Turns out my intermittent jaw pain could be fixed by braces. Who knew. I always liked my crooked teeth, never felt bad or awkward about them. Merits discussion.
For the rest of the day, I plan to do some house cleaning and maybe write a few more Blisse entries. We'll see if the day gets away from me.
Hi.
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31/10/18 18:11 (UTC)(This is Kary, from G+)
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1/11/18 12:04 (UTC)::hugs::
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1/11/18 20:41 (UTC)The last interaction I had with the principal was positive.
The last interaction I had with the assistant principal who was at the middle school until just this school year, moving up with my younger two, was positive.
I'm used to meetings where kids' weaknesses are recognized, and strategies discussed on how to better help them.
But all those meetings have "ARD" or "IEP" or "504" in them. I don't know if you have any of those going on or not.
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2/11/18 13:50 (UTC)(no subject)
8/11/18 15:18 (UTC)There's nothing quite like Meet the Teacher night at NewSchool, and finding out right then that the assistant principal present at most of the meetings at PreviousSchool transferred to NewSchool, and having him be really happy to see you and the twin you're shepherding, and asking after the other twin enthusiastically.
I need to get that man yet another hippo...