blissmorgan: (good mornthing)
I totally meant to have a big rambly post this morning, and spent all that time replying to comments instead. Sorrynotsorry.

Youngest Spawn turns 12 today. It's been a good day so far. I made chocolate chip pancakes, and we listened to There's A Cat Licking Your Birthday Cake. Here, you listen too:


 I skipped showering in favor of birthday breakfast, and I have fifteen minutes to get dressed and try to make my hair work-acceptable.

HiByeLoveyou

Linkdump

4/1/19 07:40
blissmorgan: (shenanigans)
Academia/Edumacating
The Future of Bisexual Activism - an extract for this paper of particular interest because it contains the written-in-1990 Bisexual Manifesto. I didn't even know we HAD manifesto. I'm going to paste it at the bottom of this post.
What color is Mulberry
The origin of the phrase "A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle" (It wasn't Steinem!)
Thalassophobia: an intense and persistent fear of the sea/sea travel


Music
My first George Winston CD remains one of my favorites; playing the music of Vince Guaraldi.
The playlist I made when I gave myself permission to fail at cleaning and ended up actually succeeding


Yarning
Webs' year-end-blowout-sale theoretically ended yesterday but they still have stuff up
Crochet Pattern: Tiny Bubbles (Ravelry)
Crochet Pattern: Althea Shawl (I need to get back to working on the shawl I'm making with this pattern, it's like 90% done but I got distracted)
Crochet Pattern: The Yipyip aliens from Sesame Street
Crochet Pattern: The Not Knit Cowl - ends up appearing knit, but isn't


Omnomnoms
The Foundry is spendy but SO delicious. I need to go there again sometime instead of just staring at their menu online.


Social
Trying to figure out Friendica
A Buzzfeed quiz: which pair of wild animals match your personality (I got lion and tiger. That doesn't seem correct.)

Images
CAROL


~~~~~~~
The Bisexual Manifesto
First published in "Anything That Moves", 1990

We are tired of being analyzed, defined and represented by people other than ourselves, or worse yet, not considered at all. We are frustrated by the imposed isolation and invisibility that comes from being told or expected to choose either a homosexual or heterosexual identity.
 
Monosexuality is a heterosexist dictate used to oppress homosexuals and to negate the validity of bisexuality.
 
Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have “two” sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders. Do not mistake our fluidity for confusion, irresponsibility, or an inability to commit. Do not equate promiscuity, infidelity, or unsafe sexual behavior with bisexuality. Those are human traits that cross all sexual orientations. Nothing should be assumed about anyone’s sexuality, including your own.
 
We are angered by those who refuse to accept our existence; our issues; our contributions; our alliances; our voice. It is time for the bisexual voice to be heard.

blissmorgan: (good mornthing)
The Spawn are just about enschoolenated as I begin this post, and surely shall be by the time that I finish. I work today, but have some small time to myself before I do that. I will be catching up on two roleplaying stories, trying to drum up interest in a third, and working on a dragonfly blanket.

I am having some big thinkythoughts about a thing, but that might end up being a Patron post.

For now, a Linkdump, because I think that, (I forgot what I was going to say there because I was so eager to get into the linkdumping; maybe something about the fact that I had what looked like 50 tabs open? >.>)

Opinions/Articles/Listicles:
A Tribly Is Not A Fedora 
Wedding vows from various sects/traditions/religions/cultures

Crochet:
Dragonfly blanket pattern
A rainbow with clouds ... rug, I think

Knittery:
The Krydda Sweater - I have never actually made a sweater. Well, that's not true; I have made an adorable baby sweater that has never actually made its way onto a baby. I have, however, never made an adult sweater. Therefore, I am going to give it a go with this pattern, because it is really beautiful and the lacework is pretty but does not look difficult per se, and I can totally see wearing it to work. 

Learning/Answering Questions:
Jim Henson assisted in the making of the original Yoda puppet, but was otherwise uninvolved with Star Wars.
The Road Not Taken, a poem by Robert Frost.
The Definition of Alacrity: a brisk and cheerful readiness
The Far Darrig if I am reading this right seem to be what the more modern iteration of Redcaps (fairytale, not political) are based on.
What number of the alphabet is the letter S?

Writing Resources:
Girl Names beginning with L
NaNoWriMo - because it is still November, even if I haven't really done much on the thing

Music:
H.1 - Again
Playlist: Dark Country - created with several other people. I still need to go through and weed out some things where there was misunderstanding about the flavor of the list, which is meant less to be American South country songs which are dark, and more music that evokes dark and creeping undeveloped/rural lands, realistic or fantasy.
Beyond the Sea sung by Bobby Darin
Pinkeye on Bandcamp
Dark Forest - an indie/folk playlist
Ruby by Charly Bliss
A Living Human Girl by The Regrettes


::clappyhands:: ooh, Shopping!:
Christopher Ruz writes a period horror piece (set in the 80s) called Rust. I love it. Also, I am in one of them as a character. It's awful. And awesome. 

Random shenanigans:
They Fight Crime!
Path of Adventure - a fun little point-and-click text adventure that is built so that you can play it right in your mobile device, although it is also totally playable on desktop as well.
Free Game Planet - the site whereupon I found the above game.
How to make some really cool paper airplanes
Drunkblog: Holidays - in case you didn't get the chance to enjoy the shenanigans as they were happening realtime

Hello, Blisstopia. <3
blissmorgan: (good morning)
Another day, another grab for the almighty dollar; I asked Bosslady last night if she wanted me to come in today (wanted, not needed - careful word choice is crucial), and yes. Every hour I work is another few bucks. Every hour gets me that much closer to the needful things in my life being addressed.

I wish those needful things were simple; new shoes, a replacement piece of furniture, a special food for the dinner table. Instead, the needful things are fixing the car; getting the divorce; adopting the child. The things that live in the perpetual state of someday.

Every hour brings someday a little closer, in more ways than one.

Even so, I refuse to give up all my hours in this chase-and-grab. It is important to retain some joy in the now. Therefore, after the Spawn were set off to school and I had my shower, I sat down with my coffee. I restarted the dragonfly blanket project that I'd had to spend several hours frogging yesterday. I watched an episode of Blacklist, and I am going to write a response to a roleplaying story I am quite enjoying.

THEN I will go to work. 

Today's brainradio is Tom Waits' I Don't Wanna Grow Up.



Hello, Blisstopia.<3




blissmorgan: (good morning)
For the last couple of days, Beyond the Sea has been dominating the brain radio. This morning, though, it started to swap over to Swinging On A Star. Therefore when I got in the shower I put on a YouTube mix rooted specifically in the Hudson Hawk version of the song, and let me tell you that was a great decision to start the day. That, Bobby McFerrin, Israel kamakawiwo'ole, Stealers Wheel, Smashmouth with interludes from the Mystery Men movie, Four Non-Blondes... this is a good mix. My mood is amped. My face is puffy from too much bourbon last night and angry because I had the dumbass idea to try to deal with the lots of loose dry skin on it by using the pumice stone on my face while in the shower.

But.

The good music, the being able to pick out exactly the scent profile I wanted from my several hundred little perfume vials (Master Bedroom from Solstice Scents, for the curious; I wanted something cedar and spice, and this hit that nicely), the good lipstick I stumbled on by accident having forgotten I have it, and having a little downtime before heading out to work? I'm feeling good, friends. Here, have my face:


It also helps a lot that my writing partner for a story that I am really enjoying messaged me back after I sent out a "Did I lose you?" feeler yesterday, and apparently thought they had already written back and weren't ignoring our story at all. So, VERY excite about that.

I am probably not making a novel happen this month, but I am getting writing done in my own way, and that's good; sometimes one must need come to a thing obliquely.

What one good thing is in your day, Blisstopia?

<3
blissmorgan: (good mornthing)
 I promised my soul my self to work ASAP this morning after getting the Spawn off to school, but since on the schedule that means they put me down for 8:15, I am now taking 10-15 minutes to myself to get settled and centered for the day.

This weekend was so many different flavors of weird.

Right now I am feeling very proud of Youngest; he had an assignment he was supposed to get done last week. On Friday when I got home from the big dropoff and checked my email I discovered that they had spent two AcLab periods helping him with it, and he had still failed to get it done, and therefore it needed to get done this weekend. I opted to not notify the Spawnfather and put the onus of working through that on him; he gets little enough time with the lad as it is.

I did, however, let him know about the assignment and ask him to let the lad know that was what he would be responsible for upon returning home, and he was. He needed to pick a character from a story he read, select three character traits, and write a paragraph about each with evidence and analysis. I was really impressed with how they essentially are teaching these kids to do a Research Sandwich - Doctor Professor Mandapants would surely be proud. They call it the R E A D strategy: Review the point, supply Evidence from the text, provide Analysis of how the evidence serves the point, and Done-clusion (that's not the actual D term but the idea was conclusion and so I created a portmanteau that amused us and satisfied the purpose of the D element enough for us to move on rather than him getting stuck on what it should be) pulling it all together.

I gave him the option to hand-write or to type, and he opted to type. This was made difficult by the fact that in September our printer went up in smoke. Literally. Secret Agent Lover Man went to print a couple pages for class and it started smoking, so we pitched it to the curb. So, lacking a printer and with me utterly unwilling to attempt to find let along travel to a late night print center, he hauled out the typewriter. I got him set up at the freshly moved and cleared desk in the living room, and curled up behind him in the armchair to work on the dragonfly blanket while he wrote.


Three hours. Three paragraphs. He got it done, and I am heckin' proud.

I, meanwhile, am super behind on NaNoWriMo.

What music are you listening to a lot right now? I'm all about Bobby Darin's Beyond The Sea.


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Tonight, I had the grand pleasure of attending a Significant Age Birthday Party for a relatively new friend; her kid and mine are friends, and when she extended the invite I partly thought she was just being nice, but she was so earnest that I thought what the heck - I'll take her up on it go. And select an entree in advance. And damn, that means I should dress up, especially knowing in advance that not only is it catered but will include a concert by one of her favorite musical artists.

So I dressed up. Purple dress, orange wrap, dark red shoes, and a matching set of cubic zirconia jewelry just for a little extra bit of glitterflash in case my purple eyeliner and glittery lavender eyeshadow were not enough. I looked good, y'all. DAMN good.

 
Selfie, me dressed up for my friend's party

The party was slated for 3pm-11, and man... there was definitely a point late afternoon where SALM and I just kind of sat on the couch and TL;DR'd out. We knew almost nobody there; he actually just came for my sake and for the prospect of good food, because he only kinda sorta met our hostess once in passing. It's been so long since I attended a proper grownup party instead of a kid's part that I had forgotten how long they are, how unstructured.

I constructed some break time for SALM by sending him home (it was not far) to check on the kids, and of course it was at that point that we were all invited out of the house into the chilly, chilly yard for champagne and hors d'oeuvres. It was there that I discovered I very much like a slice of asian pear with a small ball of blue cheese, topped with crushed pecan and drizzled with honey. It was also there that I got tired of holding down a lonely tall table with my elbows, made a beeline for a likely looking pair of gentlemen, announced that boredom was new fun and bluntly claimed them as my two new best friends. And that is how I met L and his husband R, who had flown in from literally the other end of the country, and who had known the hostess longer than pretty much everyone at the party who was not related to her by direct blood. Well chosen, me!

R is quite tall, and took a lovely selfie of us in the afternoon sunlight as it was setting across the lake. I am going to have to ask the hostess to reach out to them for me so I can get a copy of the photo, because I suspect I might actually look rather good in it.

We three proceeded into the tent before being invited or instructed to do so and found it to be warm, which was a fucking delight. Our flesh had time to thaw, and then everyone else came in as well and we found our seats. Much to my delight, we were seated at the same table, along with a young couple from Brooklyn with their toddler who is the cutest little sunuvagun I've seen in ages, and a couple from up in Boston. Once SALM returned from the parenting mission, it was time for shenanigans - the hostess had a series of "stand up if you ever [very specific thing meant to single out certain people]" that were followed by her children handing bead necklaces a la New Orleans to the last folks standing. I came away with no beads, but a good time was most certainly had.

Food was had, and conversation was had, and wine and champagne, and laughs as folks stood up to make speeches and give the hostess some small gifts. We were all handed lyrics sheets and sang a song to/about her set to the tune of This Land Is Your Land, and while my voice is still rough from the illness I have had all week that did not keep me from participating, and with gusto.

After food and conversation SALM made another jaunt home to check on the Spawn, and the rest of us arranged our chairs on the dance floor to enjoy the performance of the musical guest, Susan Werner. I fancy that I am falling madly into fandom over her - her music is a fucking delight. Too, she used the word "specious", which made L put his hand on my shoulder and mutter about how much he adores folks who enjoy words, at which point I revealed my Masters of English nerdity. I need to remember to give a podcast called The Allusionist a listen, on his recommendation.

Unfortunately, I only actually got to hear three of Werner's songs, because just as she was beginning the fourth SALM skidded to a halt on his knees beside me to tell me that he'd gotten home to discover Youngest Spawn migraining; apparently the boy had been attempting to call me and, fool that I was, I'd left my phone on the dinner table when we moved for the concert.

We vanished like ninjas. We hit CVS for medicine on the way home. The lad is now, having been medicated and thrown up and finally tucked in, sound asleep on the couch, where he will sleep off the badness. I changed out of my party clothes, and am trying to balance the feel of having done the right and good parenting thing with the disappointment of having had to abruptly cut short a really delightful evening that I'd been looking forward to for quite some time.

I will mourn just a little for what could have been, and enjoy the memory of what was - and the music of Susan Werner.



 
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 Y’ever watch a movie where something tumultuous happens, something utterly catastrophic, and there is an uproar of people jostling and yelling and making plans that are at odds with one another, and nobody’s quite listening entirely to each other long enough to really pull it together, and one quiet man (it’s always a man, isn’t it?) just kind of detaches himself to the group, strolling to the side or a quieter room or whatever, and there begins development of what ultimately becomes The Plan That Saves Them All? On the one hand, I quite enjoy that narrative trope, for what it is. Taking a quiet moment is a valuable tool, and outside-the-box-thinking has led to countless momentous developments in human history.  Yet that trope is rooted in and encourages our very American sense of American exceptionalism, the lone wolf man, the superhero, the superior guy who is going to change everything by dint of not being like the other girls guys.

Some very fine things can be achieved in solitude but humans are, overall, social creatures. A thinker alone is well and good, but never forget the second part of the trope - someone notices our quiet man has gone. Then they chase him down, or he returns to the group, and plans get implemented together.

Saturday is an early day for me, and me alone in the house; it gives me a lot of time to contemplate solitude. Today has had given me the sharp reminder of the fact that if I do not shift my Saturday work prep - or, at least, the shower part of it - to Friday night, then I am looking at a winter of miserable Saturday mornings. I stepped out of the house with wet hair into the 40-degree pre-dawn light, and my head was thoroughly chilled by the time I got to the car.

Later today I am going to a meatspace friend’s birthday party. Her favorite singer, Susan Werner, is going to be performing, and I amvery much looking forward to it. Werner is talented and funny, like a somewhat more political Christine Lavin. Perhaps I will dig up some choice song/video links tonight. 

For now, I go earn the monies, and enjoy this delicious maple walnut coffee. I am very much into trying out fall coffee flavors this year. 

Hello, Blisstopia. <3